Happiness. I think that is all anyone really wants. So what is happiness? Possession? Money? Places? I think its simply being happy as a person. No matter what you have, you have the power to be happy. The power of your own mind. Okay so it’s not that easy to simply wake up and be happy everyday, but if you tell yourself that each morning it’s a good start.
I always thought positive mantras where a waste of time, but now every morning when I get out of bed I say to myself “today is going to be a good day” and I believe it. Sure I felt abit silly at first but this is the first step to changing your mindset. It doesn’t have to be that specific quote, whatever works for you. (I can do this, today will be the day, I am in control of my happiness, etc.) If you feel embarrassed whisper it quietly to yourself or say it in your head. Alongside the positivity, you need to stop complaining! Yes we all do it, but try to go a day without complaining and see how much better you feel! It’s hard to keep up but honestly complaining just makes us feel worse about a situation. It means we are dwelling on things instead of letting them go, and when you think about it, I bet most of the time whatever is on your mind isn’t really that big a deal. Tip, often I find myself complaining to my partner about work so he will now stop me and say ‘right 2 more minutes’ then I get out what I need and it’s not mentioned again. It really helps!
The thing I struggle the most with is being more mindful throughout the day. Now don’t panic, I’m not talking complete minimalism, mindfulness, meditation, that’s not the route I’m going down. Yes these might work great for some people but I find it a bit to extreme (I can’t commit to meditating, it’s just not for me). However, I do think embracing mindfulness is one of the main steps to being happier. You have to slow down, be in the moment and think about how your actions are going to effect yourself or others. Do the best by yourself and do good by others. I find it helps to question yourself throughout the day. Is this really what I want to do with my day? How will this make my partner feel? Will I feel good after this? This helps me to be my best self and keep on track with how I want my day to go. No wasted time sat on my phone, making bad choices and dwelling upon them, just slow down, be fully present in what you are doing and think about how it will make you feel.
Productivity. This is a big one for me. I worked on it by myself giving myself a list of jobs each day, I found writing it down helps me accomplish my tasks instead of pushing them along to another day. How often are you sat there thinking about the jobs you should be doing instead of doing them? When you catch yourself thinking these negative thoughts just tell yourself to do it, it’s not that bad. By the time you’ve been sitting there avoiding your task you could be half way through it. It’s as simple as that, just do it. Once you have started something it’s so much easier to accomplish. I cannot tell you how much more I get done each week simply by changing my mindset and starting my jobs. Also how much more time I have on my hands to relax knowing everything is done. You have the power to stop your negative thoughts.
Lastly I’m going to talk about journaling. Now there are so many different options, it’s important to find what works for you. Be it an app, a diary, bullet journal, gratitude journal etc. I do a sort of half hearted bullet journal. I basically write down my tasks for each day, one gratitude and improvement for each day, a habit tracker then at the end I have a weekly reflection and to do for next week. It’s super helpful to look back through the week and see your achievements, what you did well and where you could of improved. This reflection is so helpful for becoming happier and more mindful as you can evaluate what is working for you and what isn’t. The gratitude aspect also makes you be thankful for the little things that brighten you day, things you would probably dismiss if you weren’t writing it down at the end of the day.
So there we have it. I don’t have all the answers to the question of happiness but they’re the things that, in my perspective, help me become a happier person. Always try to find the positive on every situation. I hope that they help you too, Be Happy! 😊